We can talk about orgasms but we can’t talk about anal cleanliness without getting a bit bashful.
But the simple fact is, it’s a practice that is widely done, and for some people, it’s an absolute necessity before any kind of anal play.
But what is douching? Is it necessary? Is it safe? I will share my experiences of douching in the hopes that it will educate, inspire and encourage more people to talk about it. So make sure the shower is at the right temperature and then follow me…
I think it’s widely accepted by most people that the anus is a ‘dirty’ place, and you know, to some extent – I’ll agree. We all know that’s where poop comes from. And whilst there are a certain number of people who don’t mind that – for the most of us, poop and sex don’t mix. Which is understandable.
For some, it’s all about having the peace of mind, that when you start to explore and play ‘down there’ – you are not going to come across any nasty surprises – but let me stress this right at the start – It’s Natural! ‘Accidents’ can and will happen – the most important thing is to just shrug it off and move on. It will have happened to everyone at one point, and sometimes things are just out of your control!
So what is a douche exactly?
In laymen’s terms – a douche is a device used to introduce a stream of water into the body, usually vaginally or anally. It can be used for either medical or hygiene reasons. Douching is typically normally associated with the vagina, with anal douching being called an Enema – however as most sex toy sites refer to them as anal douches, that is how we will refer to it for the rest of this article.
There are probably 3 typical examples of a douche: Bulb, Shower Kits & Water bags.
Bulb Douche
These are probably the most common type of Douche, and probably the cheapest and easiest to use. They are normally 2-piece kits – a squeezable bulb (usually made from rubber or silicone) into which you insert a nozzle. You fill the bulb with warm water and then insert into the anus, and squeeze the bulb to allow the water to enter. These are typically used for a shallower cleanse (although you can get some bulb douches with a larger nozzle to go a bit deeper).
The first douche I ever bought was the Lovehoney BASICS douche. It’s simple to use, and very effective – making it ideal for people who have never used a douche before. I’ll detail how to use this successfully later on in this article. If you are looking for something to help provide a more ‘thorough’ cleansing – then a shower Douche might be for you. I recently upgraded to the Deluxe Anal Douche which has an additional nozzle to allow you to vary the water intensity.
Shower Douche
A shower douche will typically be a kit that will allow you to connect it to your existing shower or bathtub mixer tap. Some can be permanently attached, others can be attached Ad Hoc (when you need it). The good thing about this type of douche, is that you get a consistent flow rate. There’s no possibility for what I call ‘suck back’ (I’ll explain later) – and you can get a deeper clean, because you have more pressure coming out. Of course, this does mean that you need to be EXTRA careful when using something like this – which is why I recommend using a product that allows you to adjust the pressure.
This type of douche could be worth looking into if you are someone who regularly enjoys some deeper anal play (so fisting or extra large dildos). With a bit of practice, they can be easy to use, but cleaning them can be a bit of a pain, as they are usually in smaller pieces, and trying to clean the hoses can be a bit of a nuisance – but they will leave you feeling much cleaner and confident – and that’s the whole reason we are using these, right?
The Clean Stream Deluxe Shower douche is one of the less complicated looking shower kits. It features a 6 foot hose, along with 2 nozzles. It can be attached permanently, so features a regulating tap. This means you can direct the flow of water through the douche or the shower. It also has a valve to allow to control water flow too.
When you are using something like this, again, you will want to ensure that the water temperature is ‘warm’ – and be very careful using something like this, if you are in an area where water pressure can be a bit… unpredictable! Needless to say, you use too high a pressure, you are going to cause yourself a lot of pain. So do please, be careful.
Water Bag Douches
These essentially combine the best bits of the bulb and shower douche. The basic concept is a bag (or sometimes a hot water bottle) that is filled with water and then held high on a hook (it actually works in a similar way to the Hydrodouche) – there is a long tube attached to the bag, which then has the Nozzle. They will almost always come with an adapter to help adjust the flow of water, and as these aren’t permanently hooked up to the shower, this means it can easily be folded away and taken with you, meaning you can indulge in anal play whenever and wherever you are.
They can be relatively inexpensive. The Travel Anal Enema Kit in includes a bag and suction cup to hold it in the shower, along with the nozzle and hose with a flow adapter. You could spring for the slightly more expensive and more durable option – Clean Stream Water Bottle Douche features a sturdy water bottle and can again be hooked up on the shower to allow you use of both hands.
Bear in mind, that you may have to replace the bag at some point, which can make these a pricer investment in the long run, but the portability and easy of use is probably a fair trade off. Similar to the water bag style, is the Bathmate Hydrodouche (see my review here). This operates on the same principal, but instead of a bag, it has a large plastic chamber which can be hung in the shower, meaning you can keep refilling it simply by placing it under the shower head – but it’s not permanently attached, meaning it can be used anywhere.
Is douching necessary?
There is plenty to be said both for and against douching. Generally, unless there is an illness, the body does a good job on it’s own of keeping things clean and healthy. For some people, when preparing for anal play, just a simple shower and gentle cleanse around the anal area with mild soap is enough. Soap isn’t really necessary, and you do need to be careful – the anus is a very sensitive and delicate area, and some soaps can cause irritation if they come into contact with the anal passage. Something aimed at sensitive skin is probably the safest option – they usually organic and chemical free, so less chance of irritation. Generally, the lower part of the colon is usually at its cleanest after a bowel movement – so this is always the best time (at least that’s what I have found in my own experience).
Sometimes, if you have a poor diet, which means you have movements that can be a little… ‘looser’, shall we say… then you may find that douching would be a good way to go – especially if you currently have a low fibre diet, or eat a lot of greasy foods.
Is it safe?
I’m not a doctor, I’m not going to pretend to know everything about everything – But I have been douching for the last 3 years and have suffered no ill effects. That said, I don’t douche EVERY time – I maybe douche once, maybe twice a month. The thing you have to remember is that your gut contains bacteria. Some of this bacteria is good – it helps your body digest food and absorb the nutrients it needs – and also keeps the bad bacteria in check. Sometimes, if you get a bit too aggressive and frequent with your douching, you can actually flush away this good bacteria, and it can leave you susceptible to upset tummies – which nobody likes. There is no conclusive scientific evidence to suggest that douching has any health benefits – other than just giving someone peace of mind.
The biggest piece of advice I can give here – is listen to your body. Only you know it as well as you do, and at the end of the day, as long as you have understood the potential risks, then only you can make up your mind. The important thing to remember, is that accidents will happen – everybody poops – we all know the risk of having a bit of bum fun – so if you ever find yourself in a situation where things have gotten a little bit messy – Don’t Panic! It doesn’t make you an inhuman monster – it just means you are normal!
Ok, so how do I do it?
Well it all depends on what Douche you are using. Now, I myself have never actually used a water-bag douche, or a directly connected shower douche – however I have used Bulb Douches as my main weapon of choice (and recently I reviewed the Hydrodouche – you can read all about that here).
Step 1: Make sure that when you start douching, you are within easy reach of the toilet!
Step 2: Thoroughly rinse the Douche before you use to ensure it’s clean and dust free.
Step 3: Ensure the water you use is mildly warm – you don’t want it too hot, otherwise you will do some serious damage – and you don’t want it too cold as well, that will be a MASSIVE shock, will feel very unpleasant and could also do some damage. Make sure it is JUST WATER – no soap or any other cleansing products (unless you want to cause yourself lots of pain and irritation – some people may like that, I don’t know – but most of don’t!)
Step 4: Ensure that the nozzle to be inserted (and yourself) are well lubricated before insertion. I find using just a little dab of silicone lube works best here, as water-based is easily washed/wiped away.
Step 5: You’ll want to insert the nozzle maybe 2/3 inches inside. You generally only need to cleanse the lowest part for anal play. Gently squeeze the bulb to allow the water to come inside. DO NOT LET GO OF THE BULB until you have removed it from yourself – otherwise you will suffer ‘suck back’ – all that water will get sucked back inside the douche if you let go whilst it’s inside – and nobody wants that!
Step 6: You’ll start to feel ‘full’ and almost like you need to go to the loo – quickly (but carefully) hop over to the toilet, sit down and expel. I can say now, that initially it is the strangest feeling in the world. But you get used to it. Once you have expelled all the water, I will flush and then go again – the reason? Well I need to be able to check how clean I am – so by flushing, I can see the difference.
Step 7: Repeat the steps as necessary (basically, until the water you expel is running ‘clear’) – which from personal experiences, can take between 2 to 3 expulsions. You will also want to maybe wait between 30 mins to an hour after douching before engaging in anal play, as again (I have learnt this from past experience) – sometimes, not all the water will be expelled – if it’s higher up, it may not come down straight away – however as you relax later on… you might find you leave a little bit of a wet patch… doesn’t happen to everybody – but it does happen. So be warned!
Important things to remember
DON’T put too much water in one go – this could have the opposite effect you are looking for. On my first ever go, I tried to empty the whole bulb inside – it caught me by surprise and had an unfortunate accident which I will say no more about…
DO remember to use warmish water, and to re-lube with each insertion.
DON’T use anything other than water, otherwise you could cause some serious damage, and try having to explain THAT to A&E!!
I personally thing that Douching is OK, as long as it’s done on moderation, and you take the time to do it properly. Like most things, douching is a personal choice, and everyone will have their own way of doing it. I hope this has been helpful, useful and if you have any questions or comments, you can leave one below.
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March 12, 2015
I never douche. I did it once and it ended up making me feel cramped and uncomfortable. I think the best advice for prepping is knowing your own body, paying attention to how your bottom works. Everybody’s different. I know mine now. One complete BM and I’m empty and clean. Sometimes if I’m not sure, I stick a finger or a small dildo and probe. If my bottom’s not empty I can feel it, I just push it out and I’m empty. This is so much easier and faster than douching or anything else. It’s also natural so I feel fine about it.
March 12, 2015
I’ve only ever experienced discomfort when I’ve douched ‘too far’ – but you are right, everybody is different. For some people, like myself, douching is a necessity before any anal play – I suffer from mild IBS, so for my own sanity and peace of mind, I’d rather douche to know I’m completely clean – otherwise I spend the rest of my time worrying. It’s not so bad when I’m playing solo, but with my husband, it’s an absolute must.
August 16, 2015
I was wondering, can you make yourself completely clean down there? like one time I tried too douche and it felt like it didnt matter how many times I did it. There was always going to be a little bit of stuff coming out… like bubbles or flakey things. The water looked clear but I can see it in the toilet. It was tainted.
August 18, 2015
You can never make yourself ‘completely’ clean down there, however when you get to the point where the trace of any thing else is minimal, then you should be good to go. It’s not an exact science and sometimes accidents and messes will happen, but don’t fret – (sh)it happens!
December 20, 2015
I never did anal play because it seems there,s always something down there. But I only douche with my finger and a little bit of soap…
February 12, 2016
For some people, a simple clean around the area is good enough to indulge in some light anal play – however, I would not recommend using soap in or around your butt! It can cause irritation which almost feels like a burn which is NOT pleasant. Be careful!
December 26, 2015
With respect, this is barely a review in terms of the practical experience of the reviewer since he admuts to having used only one of the methods (so not “main’ weapon of choice… the ONLY one!).
Having used all three over the years, I can say a connected hose gives best results but you need to be gentle. Bag and bulb devices obviously ideal if travelling and your local shower cannot be adapted to take the nozzle.
February 12, 2016
Actually, I have used 2 of the 3 douches. The Hydrodouche by Bathmate is an in-shower douching system, similar to the ‘bag and bulb’ set up, rather it’s a plastic container that is continuously filled by the shower, along with the long internal hose for cleaning. In my experience, just a simple bulb douche has always been the easiest and most effective for my personal needs.
January 4, 2016
I feel like I can never enjoy anal sex, and would love some help. I think I over douche. I find the water is never completely clear. Once 5 hours after douching I engaged in anal sex, and the dark water just came pouring out of me. So embarrassing. I just never know how far to push it up, and I start to feel crampy after awhile HELP!
February 12, 2016
I’m sorry to hear you’ve had some embarrassing experiences, but do not let this put you off! These things happen. I’ll do my best to try and answer your queries. It’s always a good idea after douching, to maybe leave it for an hour, just in case there is any remaining water. But chances are that when you douched, you simply went too far, and therefore you left water higher up into the colon. When using a simple bulb douche, you just want to insert the nozzle maybe just under an inch and then squeeze in the water. If you start to go further in, you could trigger a bowel movement/push water further up where it will get ‘stuck’ before naturally coming down again. This could also explain why you were ‘cramping’ – I too have experienced that after a particularly vigorous douching!
Sometimes, things like diet can make douching tricky – make sure you are getting plenty of fibre etc. This will all help. But some people just aren’t able to enjoy it properly due to medical reasons (i.e IBS) etc.
January 6, 2016
Hi
I really enjoyed this review on douching. I use to have the traditional bulbs that had “suck back” yuck!!! But now l use a silicone bulb and nozzle without suck back from forttroff.com. They have great douch products. Also it takes me 2 expels before my water clears, but l will mention that l sometime feel bloated and pass gas as l expel i assume this is totally normal. Considering my colon is full of water making me feel bloated. So if this happens to anyone else it should be totally fine. That being said great douche review it gave me pointers on top of what l already knew.
Thanks!!!!
January 30, 2016
Great article! Douching for the first time. I had no idea how uncomfortable it’d feel, but this article helped me do it right
February 3, 2016
Thank you so much for posting this. I’m a girl who is actually really into the idea of anal sex, and I’ve been researching it and one of the things I came across was the idea of doing a douche or enema. This clears up a lot of the questions I had. Thank you so much for sharing your experience.
February 26, 2016
One tip I’ve learned is to eat a big meal about 24 hours before sex, then refrain from eating until about two hours before sex, keeping hydrated with electrolytes(Gatoraid). Eat a light meal and the body will naturally give you a bowel movement in an hour. Douching after that is quick and easy as food takes about 20-24 hours to digest(some people a little slower), so the water comes out clear in two or three rounds of water, then no worries of something extra coming down the line for several hours. Often a quick shot of water about a half hour to 45 minutes after douching will flush out any more avoiding the “brown fart”. A finger or toy test should then indicate how clean you are.
April 7, 2016
I like the feeling of douching 😳
April 13, 2016
No need to be embarassed! Enjoy it!
June 13, 2016
Hi there. I have only been experimenting with anal sex for a few years now, and for the first couple years I never douched. However, although I always made sure to clean myself as best as I possibly could, I always wondered: is there more I could be doing to ensure cleanliness for both myself and my partner? A friend gave me the idea of douching and I thought to myself “I thought douching was only for women.” And in my mind I compared it to an enema, and was afraid it would trigger an immediate bowel movement. Then there was the thought of discomfort. I didn’t want it to ruin the fun I was planning on having, or make my body more sensitive to being penetrated. The key is to not put it in too far, don’t do it too many times or too often, and allow yourself a fair amount of time after douching before receiving the wonderful, almighty penis.
July 18, 2016
these comments were awesome. i started using the water bag Secondly. this did not work for me, brown water accidents. i will stick to the basic bulb which worked great and hardly hadan accident. thanks
July 21, 2016
Hi I’m a 24 year old bisexual male. My wife like to dominate me in anal ways, so naturally I want to clean myself out. However I feel cramping from mildly to really painful. Also some times when she prepares me with anal ease I hurt badly after the anak play and have awful pain in my anus and stomach craps. Any help?
July 28, 2016
The cramping could be an indication that you are squirting ‘too far’. IF you flush water into the upper colon, you can trigger bowel movements and cramping. Just a light squeeze in the lower part should be sufficient.
As for the Anal Ease – i’ve never used this product before – is it supposed to be a numbing/de-sensitising gel? If it’s taking too much of the sensation away, then it’s very easy to get carried away, and yet – you won’t know it’s hurting at the time until later, when it’s worn off. When playing anal, I strongly suggest using plenty of thick anal lubricant and just take it slow. It may hurt at first, but you need to listen to your body, and if it’s hurting too much, then stop. You don’t want to do yourself an injury!
July 22, 2016
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July 31, 2016
Ok this is old. For me it’s either douching or eating properly. By properly I don’t mean lots of fiber. We’ve all had times when we’ve gone to the toilet, used the paper and..wtf, clean! And those are not exactly the days we eat more fiber, but quite the opposite, because fiber makes sh•t less compact, fluid and messy. The more fiber you eat, the more chances you’ve got to have something left in the rectum. Don’t take me wrong, I’m not saying being constipated is the goal; it leads to problems like haemorrhoids..but shi•ting “solid turds” can certainly save you a douching session (always check it with a dildo, tho’). At least in my experience those are the times I’ve had less accidents.
August 2, 2016
So, I have to ask this… I know that this is not the appropriate place to write this, but my husband uses an anal douche. He uses the hot water bottle and a long clear tube. I found this and his dildos. I am a woman. I need to know if my husband is gay and just hiding this fact from me. I asked him and he said that he just liked pleasuring himself differently. What I am trying to ask from homosexual men is: A man would use an anal douche in preparation for sex, correct?. Any other reason? Would it be necessary for a person just using a toy on himself?
I need to know, that you in advance for your responses.
August 2, 2016
Using a douche/dildos does not make someone gay. A lot of men who identify as heterosexual use dildos and other toys to stimulate the anus because that is where the prostate gland is – it’s the male equivalent of the female G-spot. Stimulating this can lead to bigger, better and stronger orgasms.
As for douching, I do sometimes use a douche before I use toys, because it helps make clean-up a little easier afterwards. Again, this does not mean anything.
August 15, 2016
I think you might want to join him when he is using his toys – and see just how good it makes him feel. Perhaps you may progress to strapping one on and participating in his pleasure…
February 20, 2017
I’m a straight guy who’s occasionally into a bit of anal, quite rare that I do it, but it is nice to have a change, I do want to be clean when I’m having a little play, because I know it’s my own mess, but it is still mess and I don’t want it to be involved, I’ve never involved a girlfriend because I just think it would freak them out, and to be honest its a little embarrassing to talk about, but I am how I am! Also if he was gay I doubt he’d need the dildos, so there’s no need to be too suspicious, although I understand why you are
June 3, 2017
Douches annally are normally for anal sex. Cleaning a dildo is not so rigorous that you’d need to buy a douche m. Perhaps he uses it for constipation?
September 6, 2017
I’ve yet to try a Pure Wand… if any retailer is watching and want to send one my way… *wink wink*
August 9, 2016
Great article about douching. When I try it for the first time, it was very uncomfortable but I get used to it. Plus, you have point out some very useful tips, thank you for that!
August 18, 2016
I douche every time before anal sex, and sometimes before an important event, ie an interview etc. The last thing I want is to have something going on inside!
I don’t insert anything either, I unscrew the shower head, put the rubber washer to one side so I don’t loose it along with the shower head, then adjust the temperature to near body temperature and pressure to a medium flow, then I push the end of the pipe against my anus. When no water is leaking past and its all going up inside, I wait until I feel a little pressure and take it away. I then expel the first ‘fill’ and repeat until clean. usually 3 fills do me. Five minutes and you are ready!
August 18, 2016
Being a closeted gay man I started a few years back before my solo play. Things were getting messy and as much as I enjoyed anal play the mess was putting me off.
After some scary online research I originally opted for a bulb and immediately noticed the difference! No more messy towels and didoes, no more stnky clean ups and most important lots of fun anal play with piece of mind.
I have now a very nice wand kit that is permanently mounted on my shower. I douche regularly and after I know I’m clean I actually enjoy a few extra flushes as a sort of exciting ritual of preparation of good things to come.
I can probably say that knowing that I am clean down there gave me the strength to come out of the closet and be my full self in front of others.
I have only good things to say about douching and I highly recommend it. Know your body, know your limits and enjoy anal play!
August 25, 2016
Good afternoon,
My name is Joseph Dooley and my boyfriend and I plan to have sex on Saturday. I plan on douching today as Im bottoming, but my question is if I pull my douche out after using all my water, do I clean it with soap before using it again?
August 30, 2016
You should clean the douche once you are completely finished. There is no need to wash it inbetween each use.
August 30, 2016
As a gay male who has just embarked on the wonderful journey of self stimulation my next step is to try anal douching. Already been through the ” messy” & ” stinky” clean ups as mentioned in above comment. All of this info has greatly helped educate me on the ” ins& outs” of this procedure. Thank you. ( Pun intended!) Lol
August 30, 2016
I am a straight experienced anal lover, I can take toys as wide as a champagne bottle with ease. I have used enemas ever since I experienced with anal for the first time. I do it almost daily and sometimes even twice a day and I have never had any discomfords or anything, everything still feels the same as before I got into anal play. So I guess for me it’s enough reason to believe that taking an enema on a daily basis doesn’t do harm to your body.
October 15, 2016
It’s great that you’ve not experienced any side effects that you are aware of. Some people may not – but it’s always good to practice caution when doing anything like this. Just play safe.
September 4, 2016
I see it mentioned that one doesn’t want to trigger a BM by douching too deep. Why would one not want to trigger a BM? Seems to me that doing so then following up with more shallow douches to complete the cleansing would reduce the chances of poopsidents during sex, kind of like ensuring that there is nothing in the works for the next few hours.
September 4, 2016
You could do it that way, but i’ve found that when I have accidentally douched too far, it’s not been a pleasant experience. The BM is usually accompanied by cramping, nausea and is far messier than normal. At least in my experience (as I have mentioned in the past, I do have a mild form of IBS). But it’s personal preference and depends on how you plan your encounters. After my last meal, I wait until i’ve moved, then I can douche, wait and hour and then i’m ready to go.
November 6, 2016
I use my woman’s douches, Is that ok? Is that safe to use? I empty it out first and use really warm water and insert the nozzle all the way in and douche my anus area.
November 6, 2016
What is the douche made out of? Are you cleaning it thoroughly after use? I personally would suggest getting a seperate douche for that purpose. You could be risking making her douche unsanitary and could lead to urinary tract infections. You can pick up anal douches fairly cheaply these days.
November 6, 2016
It’s summer eve disposable douche, Where do they sell ones for males?
November 6, 2016
Most online stores will sell douches – something like this: http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=952&utm_content=feed&utm_campaign=40527&utm_source=POR&utm_medium=Affiliate&aff=por
November 6, 2016
I don’t use the exact same ones my girl uses, I just open it up pour out whatever is in the contents and add warm water in it and use and reuse
November 8, 2016
Hi, thanks for the tutorial. I’m assuming you are on all fours when doing this? Thanks!
November 8, 2016
Nope, I basically stand in front of my toilet which happens to be next to the sink. I insert, squeeze and then I can sit straight down on the toilet. Then I can hope straight in the shower when I’m done!
November 17, 2016
Thank you, I’mean an anal virgin and I’ve interested in trying it out with meh boyfriend. I was always curious on the prepping for anal sex. Thank you so very much for this article. Womens douches are mostly water with either vinegar, baking soda, iodine or even saline. I dont think that stuff would be good for the colon…or could it? since its my first time i want to feel ridiculously confidant so warm water basic douche sounds about right for me. You’re epic broh!
February 9, 2017
Thank you for having posted this article. I’m a gay top and I’d always thought bottom guys worry too much about whether or not they’ve douched. If I don’t like what comes out, then I shouldn’t go up there… But I’ve always felt that both parties should feel relaxed and comfortable, so if he thinks he needs to douche first, then he probably should. But what if he ends up at my place unexpectedly, and hadn’t planned ahead for this? So I came looking for practical info which would help me to choose a douching kit for “guest use”. That’s exactly what you provide here, for which: many thanks! I’m grateful to you for having taken the time to explain everything with informative detail, in a way that is easy to understand. Cheers, matey!
May 23, 2017
Really nice article, very complete. I’m not 100% sure I can insert while standing..is it possible to do so while squatting or sitting..? And when using a bulb, is it best to fill it completely so you don’t force air in instead of water?
September 27, 2018
It’s possible; I’ve not tried as standing is most comfortable for me. And yes, definitely ensure the bulb is full of water, not air. This can lead to some erm, well, gas basically!
October 9, 2017
When I started having sex, I didn’t know what douching was. I always had a shower first and that was my idea of clean. Most of the time there was no problem but then occasionally I started having a bit more of a mess. Then I looked into douching and have tried various methods. I can’t seem to strike a balance between douching too much or too little though. If I don’t go deep, then something comes down the line later during sex. If I go deep, then it seems to liquify everything and even 20 evacuations will not have the water running clear. I love having anal sex, but I’ve had some bad reactions to even minor messes lately. One guy messaged me several days later saying I should wash my ass, once he knew I had read it, he blocked me online. What can I do? I’m so frustrated and fed up.
October 9, 2017
I can completely understand your frustration, and I’m sorry that you’ve had some bad experiences. People seem to forget that you can clean religiously, and sometimes, accidents can and will happen. It’s really not the end of the world, but people can be hurtful. If your digestive health is pretty good, then generally, down there will sort of take care of it’s self. Generally for anal sex, you don’t need to clean too deeply, so you only really need to ‘clean’ just inside your ass hole. A bulb douche gently inserted about an inch in will usually be sufficient to clean out the lower part of the colon. Going too deep can trigger bowel movements. Unfortunately, it’s not an exact science, and for everyone, the threshold will be different. I would recommend douching about 30 mins after a bowel movement. Then give it an hour after douching before engaging in anal. If you squirt too deeply, then yes, you can get liquid popping out later. But you know what, if someone is put off by a little bit of a mess after ANAL sex (yes, remember where their putting their cock) then they clearly aren’t worth your time anyway. Even now, there’s still the occasional but of mess, but we just shrug it off as ‘shit happens, literally’.
October 29, 2017
Well first of all . when i first started to have expieriences i did not douche. Honestly i was shy and submissive . The guys that had me did not mind. If that guy was that rude not the one for you. But only push a little water in . and let it come back out. Also what food you eat the days that you want to do it can also make a difference. clear liquids for a few hours. No meats, or gassy foods. Research that you will see a difference.
November 8, 2017
I’m so sorry you’ve had this experience. I’m a female who enjoys pegging my bisexual partner, and even though it may be due to the fact that I love him, I’m not turned off in the slightest if there is a bit of a mess. He’s much more concerned about it than I am, but a body is a body and it will do what it does. No one should make you feel bad for being human.
November 28, 2017
After you douche how long will you stay clean. Like if you douche before traveling.
January 5, 2018
Hello I am a woman who has been married for 7 years and my hubby and I have never really had success with anal play in the past. He is not patient and is worried he is hurting me lol! It is a fantasy of his so I am trying to work myself up to it without putting a lot of pressure on him. This was very informative and helpful! Thank you for sharing your info! I look forward to the peace of mind this will bring!
February 19, 2018
I’m here because I literally just douched 12 times, and the “expulsions” were still quite dirty. This is a couple hours after my usual morning “expulsion” so there shouldn’t have been much.
But after twelve full-bulb attempts (and even doing a jimmy-leg shakey dance every time to make sure the water swished around) the “expulsions” looked as if they were the very first. I give up. What am I doing wrong? Is this normal?
September 27, 2018
Sometimes this will happen to me when I’m having a bad IBS flare up. I will have days where it never feels like enough. Also over-douching can trigger movements; it really is a case of trial and error.
September 27, 2018
You all say to only squirt a little water with a bulb and I’m wondering exactly how much water should I squirt up there?
September 27, 2018
Well I can’t give you an ml amount… but if you are using a standard bulb douche you can get from any pharmacy or sexual health retailer, I would fill that with water and after inserting it, squeeze around roughly half. Generally you will know when you’ve put in enough. It’s not an exact science. I
November 6, 2018
I feel for all of you who’ve, um, had accidents even after the most painstaking personal cleansing sessions. I’ve been violently ridiculed after accidents, too, so much so that I’ve been turned off from anal. Ah well.
But I wanted to say, with all due respect, that these have been some of the funniest (in a good way!) comments I’ve read in a long time. 🙂 Thanks for the laughs.